Sorry I haven't written in a while. If you'd like to see what we did on Halloween, go here!
I hope that satisfies your interest in my life. :)
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Thursday, October 25, 2007
I bet you are all tired of reading about my pregnancy. Sorry about that; this is my first time being pregnant, so it's pretty new to me and in the forefront of my mind (and abdomen). I've talked more about pregnancy this last week than I have in the previous 19 it seems.
Starting last Friday, I went to the Duede's to do my laundry there. It's free there, but you can only do one load at a time, so it took a while. Carolyn and I chatted lots about our respective pregnancies: our thoughts, our husband's reactions dealing with the new responsibility, and how dumb it is to say you're halfway there at 20 weeks! You aren't! Get over yourself.
First, you get a few free weeks at the beginning when you aren't even pregnant yet and then you have to wait a couple of weeks to even find out if you are. You have AT LEAST 5 weeks there where you don't know yet. And then, you don't even feel pregnant for 3 months, you just feel sick. I don't think you feel halfway until around 28 weeks. I've decided my halfway point happens sometime between Carolyn's baby's birth (due Dec. 11) and Christmas. Until then, I'm going up hill.
Carolyn also discussed how she's ready for the baby to come, but she still has 2 months or so. She works at home, though, and probably sits there and thinks about it all the time. I, however, am not as far along, and I work almost full time, so I dedicate less time to thinking about my pregnancy. I hope it won't feel like it's dragging on when I get to January.
Meanwhile, McKay and I decided to take a birthing class. It's actually 2 classes: a pregnancy one and a birthing one. We're taking the pregnancy one next week (nutrition, exercises, etc). This is good. We're working on a midwife/UC compromise. It might result in a doula; it's leaning that way, at least.
Yesterday I went to an LLL meeting. I was nervous to go. I wasn't sure how "granola" they would be. It turned out that they are as granola as I am... I wonder how granola that makes me.
and now our keyboard is going bazerk. I'll finish what I wanted to say later. and post a pic later.
Friday, October 19, 2007
I vowed to clean the house, and although it could stand a little tidying and sweeping, it looks much better. Proof:
These are the shelves above our desk. It used to be a disaster. The bottom one was full of files and office supplies. Office supplies are now limited and the files have been gone through, thrown out, and put into a new little file holder. The middle shelf was overflowing with books. It's now more under control (though, more books will be moved once McKay finds a better place for them). The top shelf was just scrapbooks and photoalbums, which are now neatly in a closet. Now it looks more like real people own it instead of college students. Hooray! But we still can't seem to get rid of the cinderblock walls :)
And my new vow: to take more pictures. Here's our apartment complex.
We live in the one whose door is to the right of the red car (our car), under the bikes. We park our car in front of our window so that other people can't come and shine their lights in our window at night (as our bed is right on the other side of the window). Notice the features of that beautiful red, or as we've named her, Samantha. She no longer has a handle on the passenger-side door and has never had a passenger-side rear view mirror. McKay says it was optional on the car. It also no longer has a 10 gallon gas tank, but a 3-ish gallon tank that is the size of a 10 gallon tank with a hole in it. At least it still has an engine.
Anyway, vow to take more pictures. The mountains have been really pretty lately, so I've decided to make sure I carry my camera around more often.
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
We felt the baby move yesterday. Well, now that I can recognize it, I've been feeling it for awhile. I kept telling myself it was just my intestines moving around because I didn't want to be disappointed if I found out it wasn't the baby.
Then yesterday, whilst reading the newspaper, I felt three pulses: Dun-Dun-Dun. (about 90 beats/minute for those of you who care)
"That's a hard pulse," I thought to myself.
Then it stopped.
"Pulses don't just stop on their own. I'm still alive," I continue thinking.
Then 2 more quicker pulses: Du-Dun (about 120 beats/minute).
"My pulse don't change like that and my intestines don't do that either." After ruling out the possible suspects, the baby gets blamed for kicking/hitting/headbutting me.
When McKay came home, I lied down in various positions: side, back, other side, to find a good position for him to get a good kick. He got 2! Right under my belly button!
So now that I know how it feels, I notice it some throughout the day- even right now a little.
And not only is it fun and amazing to feel a baby move around, it's further proof that lack of formal prenatal care doesn't kill the baby. Baby's alive, I promise.
Meanwhile, I haven't gained weight since the beginning of September. I KNOW my belly is getting bigger, though. I had someone tell me that I'm starting to "show" and I had another person straight up ask me when I'm due- she then realized that that could have been rude. Luckily for her, I am pregnant and not just fat and had an answer for her. But if my belly's getting bigger, why aren't I gaining weight? (I'm hoping this means other places are getting smaller: ie. my rear or my thighs)
A board question got me thinking again. This one's about a boy dating a feminist who is also a member of the church. Well, after knowing a few of these myself (one may or may not be living in my mirror), I wanted to say a few things about feminism and its bad rapport/why it seems feminism today is stuck in a rut.
Once upon a time, women were oppressed and it was very obvious, especially since a lot (but not all, of course) of issues were citizen-based: suffrage, representation in local/national government, representation on juries, ownership of land, etc. These are easy issues; what woman would say she'd rather not be treated like a full-blown citizen? Other issues were also easy: availability of education, equal wages (which we are still working on), etc. Then suddenly, these issues weren't issues anymore. Women won their suffrage, we have Title IX, etc. But feminism kept going; the only real issue is that now, the issues didn't pertain to all women everywhere.
Current feminist issues (some fall into more than one category):
Gender: homosexuality, bisexuality and all other related issues
Women's Health and Reproduction: abortion, other forms of birth control/family planning, knowledge about how various diseases/disorders/medicines
Family: parenting, mothering, domestic abuse, marriage, homeschooling, birthing/pregnancy, breastfeeding, elder abuse, vaccinations, choice to circumsize
Professional/educational: wages, sexual harassment in the work place, promotions/opportunities for professional development, availability of education, sports/athletics, availability of jobs, presence in the military, literacy, Title IX
Violence against women: rape, other forms of sexual assault and harassment, domestic abuse, FGM
Social Issues, not mentioned above: Affirmative action, disability rights, general attitude towards women + more
And of course there are many more.
Here's where the feminist organizations break down: not all women feel the same about every issue. One of the best examples of this is abortion. Some women are pro-choice, some are pro-life. It's a gender issue, but women take both sides of that platform.
Maybe organization ABC if for issues x, y, and z and is pro-choice. Woman R is for x, y, and z, but is not pro-choice, so she won't join the organization. This happens ALL OVER THE BOARD.
What really needs to happen for women's organizations to do well is to not try to be all-encompassing.
So why do feminists get a bad rap? Well, there are so many different kinds and the loud ones get heard. I know when I was younger, I didn't think you could be a mother AND a feminist at the same time. Well, I bet there are probably a few mothers out there that disagree with that sentiment. :)
There're actually a lot of varieties of feminist. I've only recently discovered the "granola" or the "crunchy" group, as they sometimes call themselves. They're the homeschooling/anti-vaccinating/natural health care variety. For some reason you don't hear about them in school. Others are the lebsian/gay rights varieties. Others are more geared toward global issues such as sexual trafficking of women and young girls, FGM, health care, etc. There are tons more. It would be impossible to make a single organization that can address every issue out there.
Anyway, so that's my little rant. There is a place for feminism in 2008, but it really needs to come in issue-sized packages and not as one large "I'm a feminist" box.
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
So I am now finished with my 5 day weekend. What did I do this weekend? Well, once I take pictures of a newly cleaned apartment, you'll know.
I also got lots of knitting done. And played DnD. On Saturday we went to Megan's to play Riddle of Steel, which is a rpg, but based on d10s, and yesterday, I DMed a DnD session for the first time in months. It was fun. And bizarre, but all my sessions are bizarre. Usually, I come up with an idea, and whether or not it's related to the over-lying plot, I do it. Yesterday was muffin land. I even made up stats for the muffins, but the players were more interested in eating muffins than fighting them.
Anyway, it's back to work for me. Today's our first day with bringing computers to the K-2 classrooms. Laptops. Five-year-olds. Yes. We'll see how that goes.
On Sunday we went to church, witnessed a baby blessing (the baby had an interesting name), knitted, took naps, and I finally know who I visit teach. Hooray! The Relief Society president in our ward is also pregnant and due in March. I congratulated her, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't know that I'm pregnant. Well, it'll be soon enough before people start noticing.
I even went maternity shopping yesterday and got 3 shirts: a sweater and a couple of blouses for work. I need some khaki pants for work, but the ones I liked...well, the medium was too tight on my "muscular" thighs and the large was WAY TOO LOOSE (and not in the maternity way...in the loose pant legs way). Ugh. I guess I know what I'll be doing Friday: buying pants and a skirt for church. Maybe I'll post pregnant pictures... Yeah... This evening.
Meanwhile, we're trying to decide what to do for the holidays. Our schedules for work and school are kind of screwy. McKay has finals the Friday before Christmas, and I have to be back to work the 2nd of January. We could see my parents for a short little while, I suppose. If we don't see them then, they'll never see me big and pregnant this pregnancy.
Anyway, that's my little ranting for now. Lots of things going through my head.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Just in case you all thought that I was typing codswallop, I do have the official document now. I am, officially, pregnant.
And yes, I did wait 18 weeks to find out.
Look at its officiality: poor handwriting and everything. Actually, when they brought me into the little room, they didn't actually confirm the pregnancy, they just started talking about something all serious-like and I had to ask them, "I'm pregnant, right?" Now, it's not like I didn't believe that I was pregnant... but I did have 3 cups of water right before I went in and was afraid that the sample was diluted. I just wanted to make sure that it wasn't too diluted, that's all.
So yeah. there you go. It's official and now I'll go on with my life and get my hiney to work.
Friday, October 05, 2007
Today's spam is brought to you by the letter S. "The S is for Sucks."
Screenshot from my spam:
Would anybody care to tell me where I can find a "prestigious" non-accredited university?
And guess where the S is for sucks line comes from. You'll win...a good feeling about yourself.
So I've called about 3 different doctor's offices to schedule an appointment. I don't know what it is, but secretaries say the weirdest things. This conversation happened with 2 different secretaries.
"So when was your last period?"
And then I wait for them to say something...
"So you're how far along?"
"We usually like to see you between 8 and 10 weeks."
Now, what I really want to say is, "So the doctor won't see me?" or "Do you own a time machine so I can fix that?"
I really don't know why they say that. It's not like I can change the fact that I'm in my second trimester now. Ugh.
So I technically have an appointment for next Wednesday, but I'm not sure about it. It's with one of the offices that gave me the "between 8 and 10 weeks" line, so I'm not crazy about them. It's kind of off-putting... and... rude. Oh well, what can I do?
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
So, I thought I'd be one more, but I'm not. The school blocks blogger, so I can't post during my lunch break :( Then by the time I get home I have to cook dinner and all that jazz. I'm going to give you a weekend update tonight, though. Meanwhile, I'm on Ravelry. Look me up under TopHat.