Wednesday, December 31, 2008

New Year

So last year was quite the ride. I had a baby, McKay graduated from college, we went to California twice, I went to Chicago, McKay started grad school, and then some other things happened, too.

My goals for this year? Hmm...

In 2007, I ran a couple of 5ks. I think I'd like to do that in 2009.

I would also like to declutter our closets. When everything you own is in one room, your closets kind of take a beating.

I'd also like to work on calming meditation/prayer.

I would also like to do a better job about birthdays. I used to think that birthdays were just a way to get attention and stuff. I didn't really like that, so I didn't like birthdays. This year, however, I'm reconsidering my position on birthdays- now that I have a little one, I see birthdays as a way to celebrate a person and their life. There's one family in our playgroup who asks for canned food donations to the Utah Food Bank instead of birthday presents. I really like that idea: people can still give if they feel inclined, but the day isn't about getting stuff.

Happy 2009, everyone!

More News

This Facebook thing is making my life busy now- but more locally. I didn't think Utah channels/newspapers would care about what I did in California so I didn't contact them ahead of time like I did the California papers. I guess it's a fascinating story, and based on comments, I've obviously hit a nerve in American culture.

Fox video
KSL video
Deseret News
The Associated Press and abc4 are supposed to have something up soon, too. I'll link them when I get them.

But my favorite post these past few days? PhDinParenting's post. I was going to do a post like this, but she did it wonderfully and so organized and pretty much took the words out of my mouth. I lover her emphasis that "Discriminatory policies get changed when people fight them. Not when they go elsewhere."

link to the abc4 story.

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

More Facebook Coverage

The Provo paper, The Daily Herald did a little bit on this.

And while the TV bit I posted of Fox news yesterday had some, well, not-thought-out comments (they gave the impression that you have both breasts out and uncovered all the time when you breastfeed- I've obviously been doing it wrong), this Fox podcast from last Friday is about Kelly Roman, who lost her Facebook account due to unfriendly Facebook's policies. I think they did a great job in this podcast. It's an hour long, so listen to it while you do some dishes or on the way to work.

Also, last week, Medela, the breast pump company made a statement last week. It's a little late in coming, but I didn't know about it until yesterday.

Medela, a longtime champion of breastfeeding, exists to enhance mother and baby health through the life-giving benefits of breastmilk. We are committed to helping mothers successfully breastfeed, to increasing awareness of the benefits of breastmilk for baby, and to supporting the rights of mothers to nurse their babies anywhere, anytime.

As a company committed to these values, Medela believes Facebook should reconsider its decision to classify certain photos of breastfeeding as obscene content. Breastfeeding is a natural act and an important part of daily life for many women and their babies. If Facebook is to remain an open forum for sharing your life with your friends, we believe photos documenting such an important part of a mother's day - bonding with her baby through nursing - should not be arbitrarily censored.

Medela encourages Facebook members who support breastfeeding, and who support a mother's right to post images of this significant part of her life, to do the following:

o Join the group "Hey, Facebook, breastfeeding is not obscene!" to complain about the censorship. The group currently has 62,000 members.
o Sign up for the Mothers International Lactation Campaign (M.I.L.C.) event on Facebook, taking place on Dec. 27. This virtual nurse-in asks attendees to change their Facebook profile picture for one day, to a photo that shows an image of a nursing mom.
o Invite others to join the group and the event.

On behalf of nursing mothers and their babies, Medela thanks you for your support.

Medela - #1 Choice of Mothers

Monday, December 29, 2008

Facebook Nurse-in

The Run Down: We had about 10 moms there over the 3 hours- probably 20 or more if you want to count children, husbands, grandparents, and other supporters. We had supporters from as far away as France! Another group, called the Raging Grannies sent a representative to support us.

The online protest had over 11,000 moms participate and change their profile pictures. When we first started talking about this about a month ago on the group, "Hey, Facebook, Breastfeeding is not obscene (Official Petition to Facebook)" there were 50,000 members of that group. There are now over 70,000 members.

Media who was there:'s post about the nurse-in
abc7 was there. Here's their article.
The Mercury News was there also.
Palo Alto Daily's article
Palo Alto Weekly was there- when their article is up, I'll post it. I just got off the phone with them 10 minutes ago, so I expect it'll be up tomorrow.

Media who was not there, but jumped on the bandwagon anyway:
Fox News- used abc7's video

Pictures 2-5 in the slideshow are courtesy

As for my thoughts? It was fun and exciting. I would really love Facebook to re-evaluate their policies and I'm going to continue trying to contact them.

At one point a reporter asked, "Why you?" I discussed how I don't want women to be ashamed of breastfeeding, but the question brought up other thoughts. Why me? Maybe it's in my blood. When I was little, I remember wishing that women didn't have the vote so I could be a suffragist. It wasn't fair that I wasn't born in the late 19th century! I wanted to walk the streets and be a part of the cause! I once took one of those Internet personality tests that list compatible occupations for your personality. First one listed for me? Activist. Coincidence? Last month when I was having a tough week, I re-read the book I had people sign when I graduated high school. More than one friend said they'd look for me in the news in the future. I guess I always had that vibe. There are so many good causes out there- why not join one? or many?

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Hey, Facebook!

Today, I'll be at the nurse-in at 11am. I will, of course, take pictures and post them (and maybe even to Facebook!)

In the meantime, I wrote up a letter to Facebook outlining my purposes in this nurse-in. I thought I'd share it here.

Dear Facebook,

My name is Heather Farley and I am coordinating the nurse-in that will occur this Saturday. I have been using Facebook since February 2005 when Facebook was very small and young. I really enjoy using Facebook and being able to connect with friends and family easily. I think this service that Facebook has offered millions of Internet users is invaluable. However, I am upset about Facebook's recent actions.

I wanted to outline the reasoning and purpose of the nurse-in. As you know, the group, “Hey Facebook, Breastfeeding isn't obscene (Official Petition to Facebook)” is where this event was organized. Perhaps it seems strange to you that such a “small” issue might have so much attention. I wanted to highlight the impact that the removal of breastfeeding pictures has.
On one hand, it is a public health issue. For many years, the World Health Organization has emphasized the need for mothers to breastfeed and has set minimum standards that many countries, including the United States, still have yet to meet. They have set these standards to help prevent the significant number of deaths of infants in our world. By removing pictures of breastfeeding, the message is sent that it is something shameful, something that should be hidden and not seen. This can undermine the confidence and desire of future mothers to breastfeed their children, to the detriment of their children's health.

On the other hand, it is an issue of discrimination against breastfeeding mothers. Like issues such as pregnancy, breastfeeding discrimination is a gender issue. When pictures are removed of breastfeeding and not of artificial feeding, breastfeeding mothers are being discriminated against and a wrongful double standard is set. After all, a bottle is simply a plastic, prosthetic disembodied breast in size, form, and function. Additionally, many groups such as the Ontario Human Rights Commission have stated that breastfeeding right issues are human rights issues and that discrimination against a breastfeeding mother is discrimination of her rights.
It is also a public relations and customer service issue. There are more than 60,000 people in the group, “Hey Facebook...” The statements that Facebook does not plan on considering changing the policies about breastfeeding images gives the impression that the opinion of those 60,000 Facebook users is unimportant and inconsequential. However, 60,000 people are not inconsequential and Facebook's reply of no action may in the future result in the loss of Facebook users and customers.

I do understand that Facebook needs to prevent and eliminate pornography on the site. It might not appear possible to have a user agreement that disallows sexually explicit pictures while allowing pictures of mothers breastfeeding. I want to suggest that this is possible- and such a user agreement is my goal in this nurse-in. I would like Facebook to change their policy to something resembling, “photos containing nudity, drug use, or other obscene content are not allowed, except in the case of a mother nursing a child.” If Facebook added such a clause, pornographic and sexually explicit images could be removed without discrimination occurring towards mothers and babies.

I hope that Facebook will reconsider their position and listen to this group of 60,000, for the benefit of babies and for the rights of mothers.

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Making the News

Click on this link:

Yeah. No idea why they chose the crying Margaret clip- she was happy for most of the shoot! They put in the 1 time that she cried.

Monday, December 22, 2008


We are safely in California- it took us a long time because we had to have the chains on the tires for 3 hours through Nevada. On Saturday, we went to a wedding reception and met some family for the second time, but I didn't remember them the first time, so it's like the first time. On Sunday we went to church and I subbed for the Primary pianist the last hour of church.

And in 10 minutes CBS is coming for a TV interview. Very exciting.

Meanwhile, if you're in Palo Alto or the Bay area, please come to the nurse-in this Saturday. It would be sad if we had more reporters and photographers than we had moms nursing.

Friday, December 19, 2008

MSNBC video

Not sure exactly how they got my name, since they didn't contact me directly, but here's MSNBC about the nurse-in.

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Friday Fill-ins

I decided to not be serious about these Christmas songs.

1. Said the night wind to the little lamb, "someday you'll make nice wool".
2. The first Noel, the angel did say, was probably pretty in tune.
3. I would eat green eggs and ham Over the hills and everywhere.
4. It came upon the midnight clear, that we would be driving and listening to horror stories to keep us awake.
5. There's snow on the ground, Let your heart be light.
6. And the thing that will make them ring is the carol that you sing on a long car trip.
7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to braving a blizzard to get to CA, tomorrow my plans include meeting random in-laws again at a wedding and Sunday, I want to have caught up on my sleep!


So brightonwoman tagged me. I love her blog- you should all subscribe to it.

Anyway, the tag. I don't do tags often, but I've been lazy in the blogging realm, so here's a quick post. Brightonwoman themed her tag with Christmas- some of mine will have that theme, too.

6 random things about myself.

  1. On my right leg I have 3 freckles in a nice triangle shape. It's almost an equilateral triangle, but not quite. When I showed it to McKay once a couple of years ago, his response was, "But it's not exactly right!" Since that conversation, a new freckle has shown up in the spot where it should be to make an equilateral triangle. I think I willed it there somehow. But now I have an equilateral triangle on my leg.
  2. I discovered that hats look good on me when I was 16 and tried on a straw hat. Since then, my collection has grown. I have a pinstripe fedora, fancy white fedora, big brimmed black felted winter hat, straw hat with a large bow, a little white straw hat that I wear to church in the summer, ivory cloche, little brown hat, and a purple hat that I got from a friend for my birthday last week. And a couple winter beanie-like hats, but those don't count. Oh, and a Santa hat, but that doesn't count either.
  3. My favorite Christmas present growing up was a bike.
  4. I have Dr. Seuss's ABC memorized. To a T. T T T T Ten Tired Turtles on a Tuttle Tuttle Tree.
  5. On December 21, 2000, I learned that you can drop a ketchup packet from McDonalds 13 stories and it won't break. True story. And afterwards, you can go down, pick it up, and do it again.
  6. I don't like hot chocolate very much. Or cider. Or really any sweet, warm drink. I associate sweet drinks with coolness like lemonade or milk. It messes with my brain to have sweet warm drinks- though I'm liking them more now than I did as a kid.

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Palo Alto Nurse-in

This article made front page news in the Palo Alto Daily News today, Wednesday 17, 2008.
If you are interested in the virtual protest, please go here!
Link to the group, "Hey, Facebook! Breastfeeding isn't obscene! (Official Petition to Facebook)"

Nursing moms take aim at Facebook over censored photos

Facebook is accustomed to parents complain­ing about racy photographs posted on its site, but now some mothers are seething over revealing pictures it refuses to allow on its pages.
A group called the Mothers International Lactation Campaign, or MILC, is planning a “nurse-in” outside the social network’s Palo Alto offices to protest its removal of user-posted images that show women breastfeeding their babies. The demonstration, planned for Dec. 27, will also have a virtual component, as thousands of people across the Web make nursing photos their main profile picture.
The protesters say breastfeeding is not ob­scene, and Facebook’s removal of their pictures sends the wrong message to mothers everywhere. AFacebook spokesman on Tuesday clarified that the site does allow breastfeeding photos as long as they don’t show a fully exposed breast.
MILC organizer Heather Farley of Provo, Utah, said she was surprised last month when Facebook took down two photos of her nursing her 6­month-old daughter, one of which was her profile picture.
“Where I live, I can breast-feed in public or pri­vate, and there are laws that say it’s not obscene or lewd or indecent,” said Farley, 23. “If I can do it in public, why can’t I do it on Facebook?”
Censoring such images, she said, reinforces stig­mas that discourage mothers from a healthy, natural practice. Angry at the site, but not wanting to lose her online friend network by unsubscribing, she took ac­tion by joining like-minded mothers in a Facebook­based petition called “Hey, Facebook, breast-feeding is not obscene!”
As of Tuesday, the group had more than 53,000 members.
Farley isn’t sure how many will turn out for the nurse-in, planned for 11 a.m. on Dec. 27 at 156 Uni­versityAve., but she’s hoping for at least 20. She said more than 2,000 have already signed up for the vir­tual protest.
Facebook had no comment on the planned dem­onstration.

Monday, December 15, 2008

Madonna and Child

Last week for my birthday, McKay and I went up to Salt Lake City. Unfortunately, we forgot the camera (and Margaret's coat). We went to the Church History Museum and in the entrance, they have a large display of scores of nativities that were made in Poland. Two of the nativities featured Mary breastfeeding Jesus. Her breast was out- no blanket, no "swaddling clothes" covering her, no "mother's room" in the back of the stable. I wish I had taken pictures.

So here are some of my favorite Madonna and Child portraits featuring breastfeeding.

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Happy Christmas!

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Friday Fill-ins

1. Friends don't let friends drive while knitting.

2. Be grateful for good health; it's a blessing.

3. I'm ready for a week of relaxing before holiday travel.

4. Old Spice is one of my favorite perfumes or aftershaves or smells.

5. The oldest ornament I have is my "baby's first Christmas" ornament.

6. Take some happy songs, mix it all together and you have a playlist called "Heather's Happy Music".

7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to going to Salt Lake for my birthday, tomorrow my plans include knit with my birthday yarn and Sunday, I want to wear my new hat!

Christmas letter

Dear Self/Blog/Readers/The Universe/God?,

December has been a busy month. Shall I list what's happened? What still needs happening? It's not very linear, so I hope you aren't a math person who'd get upset by that.

Tonight, my heart is split- at 7 there is a Mother's Blessing (sometimes referred to as blessingway) I'd like to attend. There's also the Relief Society Christmas dinner. My heart belongs to Relief Society, but I think the Mother's Blessing is going to win out this one. Happy birth and mothering vibes are some of my favorites.

Yesterday I bought yarn and a new hat (pics later). Plus new knitty. Very happy.

Margaret is asleep. Also very happy. We had a mini potty strike earlier this month, but everything's back into order now. Only 1 poopy diaper since Monday. Rock on.

Need to knit. Need to knit. Need to knit.

Need to get Christmas gifts in order. And Christmas cards.

I went to a discussion today at BYU about the female brain. Not as interesting as I'd hoped. Too much playing the of the stereotype jokes.

As for my hair, I've always believed that hats look better with short hair. Curls for church:

Ooh as for the mail this month, last week a Diaper Genie showed up at the door. It wasn't intended for us (we use cloth- why do we need a diaper genie?) and it's going to its official owner tomorrow- addresses got mixed up. Amazon's come twice this week, too. McKay ordered my birthday present from them. And I ordered Permission to Mother. I'm going to read it and then donate it to our local LLL's library. Got a few birthday cards, too. That's always nice.

I've been doing dishes, but they don't ever get finished. I watched to the First Presidency Christmas devotional on the laptop while doing dishes on Monday morning. It's a good way to do dishes- I've also started listening to past conference talks on the Internet while doing dishes.

Have to do laundry tonight- Thursday is laundry day.

Margaret has stopped liking baths. I think it's boring in the tub- she'd rather have me hold her in the shower where she can reach all the shampoo and soap bottles.

Also, I'm helping to plan a nurse-in. I hope there's a good turnout.

So that's it. Having fun, having work, having a busy December.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008


I love Target: Women.

That said, I haven't read Twilight yet, so I'll just assume this hits the mark... :)

Saturday, December 06, 2008

Thanks for informing me!

The following circumstances are probably fictional. So sue me. :)

It was early 2008 and there was a heated discussion at Budweiser.

"We just can't figure out how to get sales! It's the one place where year after year, we just can't break even!"

"Where is that?"

"Utah County! It's like they've got something against beer."

"You know that place is just filled with Mormons- I bet they don't even know what beer is."


Sighted on University Avenue in Provo, Utah:

Friday, December 05, 2008

Hair cut!





I am so glad that I don't have all that hair any more!

Thursday, December 04, 2008

Friday Fill-ins

1. Snow will eventually happen.
2. I'm looking forward to my birthday next week.

3. Sleeping in is the best activity ever!
4. One of my favorite old tv shows is Wonder Years.
5. I'm done with disposable wipes for Margaret! (finished what we had left this week)
6. The most enjoyable thing around the holidays is getting mail.
7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to enjoying a new haircut, tomorrow my plans include a Christmas party and Sunday, I want to knit!