As I was doing some dishes this morning, I was reflecting on the UCAN meeting and other birth stuff. I was thinking about myself a year ago and the affirmations I had written out for my birth; I got to thinking about "what ifs." When you plan a UC, you run into all kinds of "what if ____ happens?" comments.
I once found a list of "what ifs" on a forum or mailing list that I feel pregnant women should seriously consider. I can't find the original list, but I thought I'd put down here what I remember, and some I've added. I think we sometimes forget that these scenarios are just as or more likely than the ones we normally hear about.
- my baby lines up in the most ideal birthing position?
- my body goes into labor exactly when the baby is ready?
- my contractions are effective and move the baby along exactly as they should?
- the sounds I make accentuate the power of the contractions?
- my cervix thins and opens at just the right pace?
- I find the best position to labor and birth in and the movements of my body amplify the effectiveness of the contractions?
- the people and scene around me are full of faith and confidence and support?
- the cord is tucked close to the baby and out of the way?
- I get enough rest between contractions that I can handle the next?
- I am up to the challenge of each contraction? what if I am strong?
- my perineum is strong and flexible?
- the baby's shoulders turn to be in the best position to slide out?
- the baby is aware and has no problem with the transition to the outside world?
- the baby latches on perfectly and suckles well?
- my uterus claps down quickly and effectively to push the placenta out?
- the placenta is birthed whole and is healthy?
- the birth is pleasurable?
- the birth is empowering?
- I find a strength in myself that I never knew before?
I am strong. My body is physically ready and able to birth. McKay believes in me. God believes in me. Christ believes in me. I love myself and I am not afraid.
I am beautiful. My body is beautiful. I will not interfere with my body's birthing abilities. My body knows how to birth. God made my body in His image.
I will be comforted. Angels will lift me up.
I forgive myself. I am made to do amazing things. I am a leader. I am wise.
This home is safe. God, McKay, the baby, and I are a family- no one else's opinions matter.
Fear is not a good enough reason to do any thing.
This birth is in God's hands. It will be beautiful.
I am brave. I am calm. I am amazing.