Last Saturday I got a haircut. Check it out!
But that's not what this post is about. This post is actually about something my hairdresser told me. This is what she told me: "I sent someone to your blog yesterday because they are nursing their 15 month old and are getting pressure from friends and family to wean and I thought about you."
So with the prospect of someone new reading (hello, mystery person!) I thought I'd talk a little about what has helped me in my toddler nursing journey. You can read books and blogs, and those are really helpful! I did enjoy Mothering Your Nursing Toddler when I read it the first time and I have a reader full of breastfeeding-related blogs. But lately I have been feeling really lonely as a mom nursing a 3 year old. On one of those days a few weeks ago, I realized what I was missing: other nursing moms.
Now, I do have some moms I hang out with. Our local LLL group has a playgroup and there are a couple of other nursing toddlers Margaret's age. We go to that playgroup, but it feels like everywhere else I go I'm the odd one out- and I live just a few blocks out of Berkeley! You'd think there would be nursing toddlers on every corner or something.
In Utah it was so easy to nurse Margaret. There were definitely not nursing toddlers on every corner, but I had a close knit group of friends and role models to look to. Moms there nursed their 2, 3, 4, 5 year olds. When I felt out of place nursing an 18 month old in other places in my life, I just looked around and saw that my 18 month old was just a baby.
We've been in California a little over a year and I do have some friends who nurse their children for many years, but Margaret's at that age when even her nursing friends are slowly weaning. She's not anywhere near weaning. Well, she might be. It really depends on the day. Two weeks ago, she was nursing 5 times a night and now she's already down to once and sometimes not at all (I've actually woken her up to nurse because I'm full and need her to nurse!) But the way she begs and begs me to nurse during the day, I'm pretty sure we'll be doing this for a while yet.
It's like we're in nursing limbo. It's really strange. Anyone else in this boat with me? And can you come over for a playdate?