Friday, October 25, 2013

October Homeschool

Last month I shared what we turned into our ES for our charter school, so I thought I'd do it again this month. We have to have 4 samples: English, math, science, social studies.

For English and math, I found a couple of $1 "workbooks" at a store. We don't do work from them regularly. She just did a page from each of them to turn into the ES today: things like "count the red balls in the picture" and "match the lower case letters with the capital letters." Tear out the pages and turn it in!

For science, I just printed out this picture to give a copy to the ES. This is from Lego class. The Lego teacher said that the bridge project is usually a whole day of day camp and he had never done it in an hour and a half before, but Margaret's class did it!


When the ES was here last time, she said social studies in kindergarten can focus on the family, so Margaret simply drew a picture of her family. Easy peasy.

So those are the hoops we are jumping through for the money this month. The money pays for Lego class and clay class. She comes home with 2-3 new pottery pieces every week, so I think that's a success. This week's finished objects were 2 bowls and a Halloween spider.


Monday, October 21, 2013

Train of the Thoughts

So some thoughts today. Maybe I can make some sense out of things.

I haven't blogged much about birth/breastfeeding lately. But still doing that breastfeeding thing. I've been breastfeeding for over five and a half years straight! Wow. That's kind of intense. Still helping people out with the breastfeeding stuff, too. Here're a couple of older links I've been sharing with moms that might be useful to some of you:

Maximizing Production. This is a Stanford video that shows techniques for breast compressions during pumping to help maximize what you're pumping. The video is especially geared toward premies and newborns.

Best for Babes had an article about skin-to-skin and laid back nursing as a way to overcome latch problems. I've shared this with multiple moms and it has helped moms wean from the nipple shield and get better latches, so I'd say it's good stuff.

Being 9 months out from having a baby, I don't feel like I'm in the birthing world much, but I was recently approached about a non-profit in Oakland that deals with birth, pregnancy, and parenting support. The people involved are good people and so I think I'm going to see what I can do for them. When I have more info, I'll share here.

And on life. It's funny- I've blogged about the guilt of not having a clean house before, but I think I've really turned a corner on that. It's always messy and even though I've said I'm ok with it, I haven't always been. This past week, though, when I thought about the messy house, I started fighting back by asking the guilt, "Well, what should I give up to have time to clean? My homework (taking a programming class)? My knitting? Taking my kids to their classes? Eating?" Until I find something that's less important than cleaning the house, it's on the bottom of my list.

Though, I am wondering if we should make a "play room" for all the kids' stuff. We have toys in the living room, toys in the dining room, toys end up in the kitchen and bathroom and hallway and sometimes in the bedroom. And it sounds like a good idea to have all the kid stuff together. It'll take a lot of work to move everything (shelves! wardrobes! huge things!) but maybe. We have a busy week with classes and Halloween parties and such. And knitting. That's important too.

Friday, October 18, 2013

The Ordain Women Trip

Two weeks ago, I was in Salt Lake for the Ordain Women Action. I haven't blogged about it here for a couple of reasons: first, I wasn't sure what to say that hadn't already been said other places. Second, this is a highly controversial topic in Mormondom and I didn't want to alienate readers.

I was originally going to write about how I made the decision to go, but that's included in this Exponent post. I think instead I will write about the actual experience of going and maybe include any reactions from the ward (so far), which aren't many.

I was very excited and nervous to go. I took the train for expense reasons and because I swore I'd never drive across Nevada again. It was a nice ride and I spent it with Heidi, who wrote up her experience at Rational Faiths. For the record, I'm the one who took the picture of her reading Buffy on the train.

Donner Lake from the train
When it got to be bedtime on the train, I put the baby to sleep in the wrap and tried to sleep sitting up. Unfortunately, the baby stirred every 30-45 minutes and so I didn't get to sleep more than 45 minutes at a time. I also happened to wake up right when we passed big destinations: Elko, Wendover, the Morton Salt factory. When it got to 2:45am, I decided to officially "wake up" and gather my things. We got into Salt Lake City at 3:05. My friend April picked me up and after I got everything together, she drove us back to her house where a bed was waiting. Very grateful for that.

Linda decided to wake up early and so we got up and had breakfast. Linda and I were still tired, so we took a nap that morning and slept through the first session of conference. Oops. Lunch was a grilled cheese sandwich, Linda played with April's kids (whom she loved!) and in the afternoon, April and I got ready to go to the park where we were meeting everyone.

April and I did some chatting. She had been on the local news stations the weekend before. One of the complaints she heard about Ordain Women was that it was so public. She said, though, that OW didn't send any press releases out. They were contacted by the press for interviews only after the Church sent out a press release and linked to OW. If the Church had just ignore the whole thing, it wouldn't have been as big of a deal.

April's house has stairs! Our house doesn't have these.
I left Linda with April's husband and children. She was very tired because she hadn't had a nap since the morning, so I figured she'd go to sleep. April and I drove to downtown and found parking and made our way to the park where the OW people were meeting. I also got to take a picture of Salt Lake City's bike share.

There were opening exercises with a prayer, hymn, pep talk and then we lined up to walk to the Tabernacle where the stand by line was positioned this year. They passed out cards with names of women who said they wished they could be there, but couldn't. When I had dressed for the evening, I had written down names of my children and other people important to me that I was going to be there for and put the list in my sock. It actually stayed in my sock until Sunday afternoon when I finally got home (didn't have time to change out of the socks!)

I was there as the "official Tweeter" for the Exponent, so I was taking pictures and documenting the events as they were happening. The Exponent is dedicated to all women's stories, so I was careful to only document, not give my opinions. The next day, Mraynes at the Exponent put together many of the tweets and you can see what happened here.

Two weeks prior to going, I had a thought/impression and it said, "Are you prepared for the possibility that this is going to hurt and you're going to cry?" I had been so excited and upbeat about it that I was shocked that this came out of the blue. Then, when we were turned down as a group and it was decided we'd go up individually and ask, the thought came back with, "This is why you needed to prepare for this." I don't cry a lot. I didn't even cry at my wedding. As I got closer to the front of the line, I figured out what I was going to say to the usher: "Is there space for me?"

In all, the interaction with the usher was fast. I was near the end of the line, so all the media which had been taking pictures of each person at the line had gotten tired. I don't have a well-done professional picture of me up at the line like many of the other women. Almost on accident, a person walking by took a picture of my back at the front of the line and tweeted it. It got around to me.

I was one of the last ones to ask and so not long after, we had a "closing song" and then walked back to the park. Almost everyone listened to the session on their phones and other devices. April and I walked back to the car so I could get back to my baby and on the way we ran into some of McKay's family.

At April's, I learned that Linda had only a half hour of nap, so after getting out of our dresses and into comfortable clothes, April and I drove to dinner, hoping she'd fall asleep in the car. She didn't. At dinner, I was able to talk to Kate Kelly (who I have so much respect for- it's hard to be the public face of a movement!) and she told me that my profile was the very first one up on the website, OrdainWomen.org, by about 15 seconds and that's why it's at the very bottom on the right. Also note to self: send in new non-pregnant photos of myself!

After a good meal, April dropped me off at the train station. The train left Utah at 11:30 and the baby still hadn't slept. It was cold and I got some criticism about my baby not wearing socks, but once we were on the train, it was ok. She ended up teething the whole way home and woke up every half hour crying. I felt bad for the other passengers on the train, but there wasn't much I could do. I think I got about 5 hours of sleep on the way home counting nighttime sleep and a small nap.

When we got home to Emeryville, I had to walk home with all my stuff because McKay and the kids were at Margaret's first violin performance. I happened to get home when they were arriving home, but I didn't get to crash and sleep until 11pm. I never made up the sleep and 2 weeks later I'm still tired. It hasn't helped that the baby was teething and then got a fever the Wednesday afterwards, followed by Isaac on Friday and Margaret on Saturday. I was lucky and got mastitis on Saturday, too! Then this week Margaret got food poisoning (we hope) Wednesday.

I think we're done recuperating. I was sad I didn't get a picture of me asking that included my face. I asked around and the guy in the Twitter picture with a camcorder and purple shirt, did catch everyone asking on camera, and while the footage isn't available for everyone to see yet, I got a chance to snag a screenshot. I was nervous to watch the footage. It felt a lot like watching the video Linda's birth: it's so different to be outside of yourself in such an intense moment. It happened so quickly on the video, but so many thoughts were going through my head. I showed it to McKay and if you watch my face, I smile through most of it, but once I turned away so the next person could ask, my chin immediately scrunched up, ready to cry. Watching it reminded me of how sad my kids look when they are sad. I know where they got it from now. Like the Spirit warned me, I cried.


I think the biggest testimony to me that this is what I should be doing is that while planning for this event and going to it, I've felt more spiritual promptings than I have in a long time. The small voice that I might end up crying was just one of many premonitions about myself and other people that turned into deja vu moments. The universe and God are looking out for me and I think we're on the same page.

It wasn't about getting into the session. I'm absolutely fine with separate meetings for men and women, but I'm not fine with automatically exempting good people from leadership positions and spiritual experiences because they are female. We were there to say, "Hey, we're ready to take on the extra responsibility of priesthood and we're not afraid of what that entails." I went because so many women could not without harming their own family or church relationships. McKay is supportive of me and so is my ward. I'm in a particularly blessed congregation in the Mormon world where they really do live Big Tent Mormonism and are inclusive of everyone.

I don't shout my opinions of Ordain Women everywhere. Heck, I wasn't sure I'd put it up here on my own blog. If I wanted to shout about it, I get the chance to every fast and testimony Sunday, but I don't take it. It is plausible that no one in my ward knows that I'm associated with Ordain Women. But I know they know.

On the Tuesday after General Conference, I went to our ward's Relief Society book group. One of the women came up to me and with great interest, asked me how conference was and if we got in. I had never mentioned OW to her before, yet she knew.

Last March on the day before the profiles went up, Carol Lynn Pearson announced to a room which included many people from my ward and stake, including the then-RS president and our current bishop, that there was this new site being launched the next day called Ordain Women and everyone should read the profiles. At the time there were only 20 profiles up, so if they did go to the site the next day, it's highly likely I was noticed.

Still, no one has said anything. In June when the Sunday School topic for the youth was "Priesthood" I was asked to substitute teach the youth for three weeks. The teacher who would be out of town on vacation knew I was on the OW website but still wanted me there to sub. I actually didn't ever talk about my opinions about women and the priesthood, though I guess I could have.

Later in July, during adult Sunday School, an older high priest commented that he hoped that women would get the priesthood someday. My ward is good people.

In the temple recommend questions, I think the hardest question is the one that starts, "Are you honest in your dealings..." I think it's a trick question; saying "yes" is obviously a lie! Interestingly, the question doesn't ask about being honest with yourself, just other people. Five years ago at church in Provo, I promised myself that if women get the priesthood in my lifetime and I am a 90-something year old woman making a comment in Relief Society, that I'll say that I hoped and prayed and fasted for the priesthood to be available to all worthy people and that I did everything I could for it. And I think that so far, I've kept that promise.


Friday, October 11, 2013

DIY BionX install, part 1

So...

After asking around to bike shops and being turned down, we are going to install our BionX ourselves. Bike shops will install the BionX if you buy from them, but since we bought the BionX last winter, mistakingly thinking that was a good idea, we are out of luck with that.


With some round and round with frame builders, we ended up with Ed Litton in Richmond for adding the rivnuts so our BionX battery has a place to hang out. Last Thursday, McKay took a cargo Zipvan with the bike in it up to Richmond and we now have rivnuts!!





Next up? Installing the wheel.

First issue: we did not have a freewheel remover. But in that little venture of removing our wheel, we gave our derailleur a bit of a tune up. No more poor gear switching!

One of McKay's coworkers is really into biking and he brought a free wheel remover to work for us. McKay and he took the bike apart during the lunch the other day to discover that we need a freewheel. These days, most bikes have cassettes, especially bike with lots of gears. Free wheels are more common in smaller gears. According to the Madsen website, the Madsen has 8 speeds, however, by some strange surprise, ours has 9 sprockets! So not only do we need a freewheel for lots of gears... we need one for the extremely rare 9-speed set up. That or we remove a gear and get a new derailleur and do only 8 gears.

So that's where we're at: looking for a good 9-speed free wheel. We called REI and they couldn't help us, so I think we'll just order one online. We also need to buy extension cords for the BionX so the cords can span the long length of our bike. But at least we have an idea of what to do next. To the Internet!

Oh, last week, our bike met a friend. It's a folding Xtracycle with a Hooptie for 3 kids! I'd love to upgrade to an Xtracycle when the baby is bigger. The folding one fits in the BART elevators! Ooooh...